When I was a child, I used to really enjoy fairy tales. There was something about the imaginary world of fairies and gnomes that intrigued me. I also loved the stories of the princes who saved the damsels in distress and of the wrongs being turned to right…and of course, I loved the “happily ever after” endings! But when the tales turned dark and gloomy, I would become afraid. Do you remember the story about the troll that lived beneath the bridge? He would lurk in the shadows beneath the wooden structure waiting to pounce upon some weary traveler. The story goes that as the people crossed the bridge their fear of what lay beneath would paralyze them. In their imaginations, they saw the troll as a huge, snarling beast that no weapons used against it could find victory. And so, as their fear grew, so did their weakness, and one by one they would meet their doom. One day, a different sort of traveler crossed the bridge. Instead of cowering in fear and letting his imagination take hold, he bravely called the troll out into the light. And once he did, the true character and small size of the troll was visible and easily defeated. For you see, the monster loved the darkness, but hated the light because it was in the light that his façade was revealed.

How many times in our marriages have we allowed a troll to take up residence? Maybe that “troll” is some past hurt or disappointment, or even a sin of ours which has been left unchecked. When we cover it up and leave it to fester in the dark, it grows larger and more powerful in our minds until it seems to have the ultimate strength to devour us. I don’t know about you, but that’s not the “happily ever after” ending I want for my story! Thankfully, God tells us that we need not have fear! With Him, we can battle and find victory over anything lurking under our bridges.

“The LORD is my light and my salvation--whom shall I fear? 
The LORD is the stronghold of my life--of whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1) 

When we courageously bring past hurts or sins into the light, they lose their power. Open and loving communication is crucial in marriage! Sometimes it can be difficult, or downright scary, but when we ask God to strengthen us and take away our fears, the things that we bring into the light shrink with each gently spoken word. Nothing will be defeated if we remain silent and allow that troll to hide beneath the bridges in our marriage. However, when we sit down together, with God by our sides, we can talk things through and find solutions to problems, forgiveness for hurts and strategies for defeating that troll we feared. And when it is defeated we will experience an incredible joy that far surpasses the fairy tale endings of imaginary stories…for we will have found victory over darkness in real life and experience the full blessing of marriage that God extends to us.

Standing in victory,





“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” (John 1:5)

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23 Comments

  1. {shudder} I hated the story of the troll, yet read it over and over. I'm not sure what that says about me. Ha! You are right, though, the trolls under our marriage bridge need to get out in the light if we want to experience the marriage God intends.
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  2. My husband and I have so learned this to be true! Things that remain in the dark seem to grow and grow. However, when we allow God's light to permeate, He leads us through to victory!

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  3. Saleslady371November 16, 2012

    Oh, you're such a good writer!

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  4. Your comment made my day! Thank you for your encouragement!

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  5. Esther HunterNovember 17, 2012

    What a great analogy! Also good reminder and great photo!

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  6. Elise Daly ParkerNovember 17, 2012

    Love this fairy tale applied to our marriages. So true…things can build up between us that get bigger and scarier in the dark. So important to keep our marriages, every relationship, in the light. And as we know He is the light…and He wants more than a fairy tale for our marriages.

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  7. Wonderful post.

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  8. You are so right! God wants to give us lives of abundance — so let His light shine!

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  9. Thanks Denise! God's light in our lives and marriages gives incredible joy!

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  10. Thanks, Esther! God will bless us in our marriages when we let His light shine!

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  11. You are so right! God wants to give us lives of abundance — so let His light shine!

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  12. Charlotte DitmoreNovember 17, 2012

    I like the comparison. When thinking of fairy tales I heard as a child Hansel and Gretel stands out in my mind. I haven't thought of how it can be compared to anything, but I know it really scared me.

    Thank you for sharing your insight.

    Blessings,
    Charlotte

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  13. Charlotte DitmoreNovember 17, 2012

    This has gone back to showing Clif's avatar picture. I thought I had it fixed. Guess not.

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  14. I see your picture on my side! :)

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  15. It is interesting how old stories have great lessons applicable for today! Thanks for stopping by today, Charlotte! Blessings, Joan

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  16. So true. You said it so well. Everything in marriage must stay in the light, no dark corners.
    Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

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  17. Yes, things in the dark seem bigger, scarier, and more dangerous. However, once things are in the light, we are able to overcome them with God's help!

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  18. Fairy tales have always been dreary or unrealistic to me. However, there are so many truths to be found.


    I am reminded that Job said (paraphrase), "What I feared most has come upon me." Fear opens doors. Faith shuts them.


    Karen
    Idaho
    Via Spiritual Sundays

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  19. Yes, what Job feared almost consumed him. The doors that were opened were doors to dark and lonely places. However, his faith kept him going! Praise God...God's light is so encouraging!

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  20. What a beautiful reminder to trust in the Lord for our entire life, especially in marriage.
    By the way, I have never read this fable you shared with us. I have to check it out.

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  21. Laurie AdamsNovember 19, 2012

    I also remember those childhood fairy tales and yes the troll was the hardest. He was always so mean (and hairy) in my imagination. We all have some hairy, mean things that stand in our way of crossing over into the land of reality. But thankfully, in Christ ALL things are possible. Thanks for the reminder.

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  22. Yes, with Christ, we can cross over that bridge and defeat the trolls in our life! I'm so thankful for Him in my life!

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  23. Trusting Him and allowing His light to shine in every corner of our life brings freedom and joy! Blessings, Joan

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